$ All these things are within your reach. That’s what I mean when I say: I do what I would do if the objective were already attained.
Tip number 6: visualize results and steps that have brought you there together with all their consequences and circumstances and make sure that your actions and desires are not contradictory.
$ I don’t get it. I visualize the results – that’s clear and steps that have brought me there – it’s clear too, but what consequences is it about?
$ Imagine a client of the Language Coaching: a beautiful, shy woman, married for 10 years. Her husband speaks Spanish very well so when they are abroad or at international parties, the husband takes care of his wife and becomes her private interpreter. She used to learn Spanish at school, so she can understand a little, nevertheless she feels very uncomfortable when it comes to speaking Spanish. When she is to talk about consequences of her actions she thinks to herself: I’ll learn Spanish and I’ll be able to freely communicate with people abroad and at parties. I’ll be independent from my husband in this respect. Maybe I’ll be flirting, you know what the Latinos are like and my husband will be jealous. Maybe he’ll stop taking me to parties? Maybe we’ll be having arguments about it?
$ I had a thought that in my case a temptation of opening a subsidiary of my company abroad can be such a consequence. I have so many problems less when this temptation is non-existent because I don’t speak English. And another thing: actions and desires in contradiction. What does it mean?
$ One day, a man gave an excellent example in our Language Workshop. Well, he quoted statistics saying that every third couple who declare wanting to have children, have problems getting pregnant. Everybody say they want to become parents, however 33% can’t make it at once. What actions can be in contradiction with their desires? And he recited with one breath: they don’t get enough sleep, they don’t eat properly, spend little time outdoors, work too much, keep mobiles in their pockets.
$ Ok. I don’t do anything like this.
$ I see. Let’s do a purely linguistic exercise for a change. Look at this picture. Describe it as meticulously as you can and draw arrows joining key words with adequate parts of the picture.
$ There are 3 people: 1 woman and 2 men.
$ What else do you call a man?
$ I don’t know.
$ A male.
$ And a woman?
$ A female.
The Student is drawing an arrow and writing: male, female.
$ They’re sitting and chatting, they must have already eaten, they are…
$ … fed up.
$ Fed up.
He is drawing an arrow and writing: fed up.
$ They aren’t wearing business outfits.
$ They’re wearing casual clothes.
$ I find the girl very attractive. She is…
$ … slim.
$ Her hair is …
$ … frizzy. What does the man in the middle look like?
$ He seems anxious to me