$ Bill called me to the board today with respect to the habits.
$ That’s why there’s so much sadness on your face.
$ Is it about the habit of working on yourself?
$ Working on myself is absolutely one of my habits, one of my supporting habits.
$ I have already got used to the fact that sometimes ‘life-supporting’ equals ‘nagging’ for you. What is it about?
$ You know that I have two habits that are two sides of the same coin: either I deeply analyze a part of the past or I fantasize about the future or, what’s worse, I worry about what is going to happen.
$ O, yes, this is your strong suit. And you’re perfectly aware that carving out the habit of being here and now will cut your ordeals.
$ That is why, among other things, I meditate regularly. When Bill left I sat down in order to meditate and there came a thought that my coaching confirmed people’s opinions about superficiality of learning languages.
$ You’re giving yourself hard time. Do you find it superficial to work on habits in the process of learning languages? If yes, so how would you describe traditional method of learning vocabulary or grammar? That would be superficial, wouldn’t it?
$ Even more superficial. If I were to compare it to the body: vocabulary lists would be in the cuticle, habits in the skin and that what I want to tell you about – in the heart.
$ My favorite location. I’m all ears.
$ Frankly, my work makes sense if it carves out in people the habit that I want to carve out in myself: being here and now.
$ You’re still giving yourself hard time. Anyway, you shock people making them realize that their habits, under-confidence or poor time management are obstacles in learning languages. Do you want to shock them more? Bill, erase what I suggested about habits. I understood that the only thing that counts is to be here and now so let’s sit down for 90 minutes, meditate and stop thinking. The same way you could say: there are people who live on Prana. It is enough to realize that and we need neither to eat nor to drink. I’ve been researching this phenomenon for years and believe me: there are so many layers on this ability that getting immersed in the ocean of these possibilities can be even deadly. You tell every client of yours how important in your opinion is to be here and now, don’t you?
$ Yes, I do.
$ So if this idea resonates in people, if they feel ready, they will reach for what they need on their own or they will ask you for a hint. Tell me more about how precisely Bill inspired you make a deep bow in front of here and now.
$ We talked about how things emerge in the creator’s imagination before they show up in reality. I suggested a visualization to Bill and just while doing this exercise I thought to myself: this is against being here and now!
$ Not necessarily.
$ How come?
$ Look at cats. At the end of August the instinct tells them that the winter will be long and cold and that it’s time to start gathering fat. Beautiful summer around and the cat devours with abandon. – My dear cat, what is it about? – The winter is coming, I’m getting ready. – And where’s your being here and now? – I am here and now: I’m getting ready. – You are not here and now: you’re thinking about a cold winter. – I’m not thinking about a cold winter at all. Here and now I’m reacting to an impulse from my body. – And how do you know you’ll live by then? – I don’t know. I don’t think about it. I am here and now.
$ Right. I can visualize the stages of the realization of a project but live here and now instead of living in this unknown that is neither a started nor a finished project.
$ And above all this: not to desire it.
$ That was my objection during the visualization too: if I visualize, I almost automatically start to want a result, I get attached to the outcome, my emotions are given a fantastic baby food.
$ It’s a priceless pretext to practice distinguishing the reality from notions, opinions, suppositions, assumptions, expectations, (dis)likes; perception from visions; observations from thoughts.
$ What actually is the reality?
$ That is what happens before I start to think, to explain, to name.
$ So is it impossible to describe the reality with words?
$ The old man from a Laozi’s story was quite good at it.