$ Ok. Let it be Wednesday 7.30, Saturday 9.00 and Sunday 10.00. How much time am I supposed to reserve?
$ On these days just sit down when you decided to, start learning and stop when you realize that you’re not enjoying it anymore.
$ You mean in less than 5 minutes?
$ Very funny. If you watched “Tudors” in original version only for 5 minutes would you stop enjoying it? No, you could watch it for hours. Do what brings you enjoyment in learning English. Can you take into account some English on Thursday and Friday too?
$ Thursday is my business trip. When I get to the hotel, I’ll get my second wind.
$ 8.00 pm? 9.00 pm?
$ 9.30 pm. Friday 4.00 pm.
$ Fine. Next time, if you feel like it, you’ll tell me how it was and what thoughts came to your mind when you were rubbing. If you rub anything. What other habits can you think of?
$ All or nothing.
$ Sounds supportive.
$ In love maybe.
$ Explain then.
$ I get around to learning: a new notebook, a sharpened pencil, Unit I. Task 1. Reading 1. I’m learning. I have almost learned. Because of the “almost” I decide to revise once again and… I give up.
$ What are your thoughts in that moment?
$ That it’s boring! That I’ll never learn in such a pace. That I’ll revise Unit I till I get retired. That I am helpless since it takes me so much time to get through the easiest stuff. That even if I get to the end of the book I won’t remember what was at the beginning in Unit I.
$ A habit is an action and a way of thinking. Is there a chance of getting around to learning in a decidedly more spontaneous way in your case? Maybe you don’t like notebooks or writing?
$ Well, I don’t love them. At school we always had notebooks and writing tasks so I didn’t even think about an option without it.
$ One quote from “Walden” by Henry David Thoreau: Which would have advanced the most at the end of a month, the boy who had made his own jackknife from the ore which he had dug and smelted, reading as much as would be necessary for this or the boy who had attended the lectures on metallurgy at the Institute in the meanwhile, and had received a Rogers penknife from his father? Which would be most likely to cut his fingers? That was a digression. So the new habit can consist in the following: anytime you have a free moment or when comes the time you decided to devote to English (like in the first habit we were talking about today) you grab what you feel like it: any Unit or a part of it, an article on the Internet, a song. It is all right regardless of how much you do. You’ll learn as much as you can. No more, no less.
$ This is completely new to me. For example in sports trainings are not spontaneous: they’re supposed to serve a specific target.
$ I remember you say: if I can’t make it to join my basket ball class, I go swimming; if the swimming pool is closed I go jogging. I mean something similar. I believe it will prevent you from experiencing boredom. After all, nurturing something in spite of boredom, doubts, discouragement, lack of sense, fear, criticism etc. – that is a real championship. Feelings change.
$ This can be a next habit: today I decide to get around to learning in spite of my doubts in success, in spite of my poor self-confidence, although I don’t know if and how long I’ll remember the things I’m going to devote my time to today.