$ You’ve got it?
$ Your presentation is very professional. And there are hardly any mistakes.
$ Are you saying this merely to console me or to motivate me?
$ How come?! I am really of the opinion that for the last two years you have done a lot. Besides, why would I be interested in praising the progress you have made while learning with another teacher?
$ Show me the thoughts you put down.
$ 1. My hearing is impaired, that is why I don’t distinguish words and I can’t learn them.
$ Eve, did you go to a laryngologist or another specialist to talk about it?
$ No, I didn’t.
$ So how did you learn about your hearing problems?
$ I am a visual learner, I can’t hear very well. The text must be written so that I am able to understand it.
$ Can you hear me talk to you when we chat in our coaching class or over the phone?
$ Yes, I can.
$ Do you understand what I say?
$ Yes, I do.
$ So we can assume that there are no premises to think that your hearing is impaired. If we go to a specialist in phoniatrics and they test your hearing with a sophisticated machine it will maybe turn out that succeeding in a musical carrier requires an enormous load of work. The question is: is it what you want? No! The point is to help Eve to use the German she has already learned so much. And this is accessible for you right now.
Let’s get back to the destructive thoughts. I’ll tell you what you can do about them and you’ll have three options: 1. not to do anything about it; 2. to try it out and state: it’s not for me; 3. to try it out, take to it and apply in your life with joy. Any option is good. It’s important you choose it and you take responsibility for your choice. Ready?
$ So you came to a conclusion that there was a destructive thought in your head namely: allegedly my hearing is impaired. This thought has repercussions on the way you learn German because according to this thought you don’t distinguish words and you can’t learn them. So, evidently this thought doesn’t conduce to making progress in learning German; quite the opposite: it hinders the process. So if it doesn’t pay off to think this way you need to create an alternative opinion which is going to support you while you learn. I’ll give you some variants of such alternative opinions and you’ll apply one of them or all of them or you’ll create your own versions. Listen to this: my hearing is good enough for me to make progress in learning a foreign language. Or more generally: I have everything I need to be able to learn a foreign language.
$ Or: my hearing is not impaired.
$ It’s good you’re mentioning this. Let’s do a funny experiment. Close your eyes and follow what I’m about to tell you. Do not imagine a white kangaroo, leaping on green grass. Do not think of his white ears clapping when he jumps. Do not think of his teeth protruding from his white muzzle. Do not think of his white pouch nor of his powerful legs that seem to be even whiter on juicy green grass. Are you going out for a pizza tonight?
Eve opens her eyes, surprised.
When did you stop thinking of the white kangaroo?
$ When you asked about the pizza, of course.
$ That’s it. So if I think: my hearing is impaired or: my hearing is not impaired, one picture is consolidated in my imagination: impaired hearing. So if I want to change anything about it, I need to offer to myself a different picture, e.g. good hearing or abundance of everything I need to reach my goals.