Chapter VII – Part 13

There was an old man in a village, very poor, but even kings were jealous of him because he had a beautiful white horse. Kings offered fabulous prices for the horse, but the man would say, “This horse is not a horse to me, he is a person, and how can you sell a person, a friend?” The man was poor, but he never sold the horse. One morning, he found that the horse was not in the stable. The whole village gathered and they said, “You foolish old man! We knew that someday the horse would be stolen. It would have been better to sell it. What a misfortune!” The old man said: “Don’t go so far as to say that. Simply say that the horse is not in the stable is the fact; everything else is a judgment. Whether it is a misfortune or a blessing I don’t know, because this is just a fragment. Who knows what is going to follow? People laughed at the old man. They had always known that he was a little crazy. But after 15 days, suddenly one night the horse returned. He had not been stolen, he had escaped into the wild, and not only that, he brought a dozen wild horses with him. Again the people gathered and they said, “Old man, you were right. This was not a misfortune, it has indeed proved to be a blessing.” The old man said: “Again you are going too far.” Just say that the horse is back. Who knows whether it is a blessing or not? It is only a fragment. You read a single word in a sentence – how can you judge the whole book?” This time the people could not say much, but inside they knew that he was wrong. Twelve beautiful horses have come… The old man had an only son who started to train the wild horses, just a week later he fell from a horse and his legs were broken. The people gathered again and again they judged, they said, “Again you proved right” It was a misfortune. Your only son has lost the use of his legs, and in your old age he was your only support. Now you are poorer than ever.” The old man said, “You are obsessed with judgment. Don’t go that far. Say only that my son has broken his legs. Nobody knows whether this is a misfortune or a blessing. Life comes in fragments and more is never given to you.” It happened that after a few weeks the country went to war, and all the young man of the town were forcibly taken for the military. Only the old man’s son was left, because he was crippled. The whole town was crying and weeping, because it was a losing fight and they knew most of the young people would never come back. They came to the old man and they said, “You were right, old man – this has proved a blessing. Maybe your son is crippled, but he is still with you. Our sons are gone forever.” The old man said again,” you go on and on judging. Nobody knows! Only say this, that your sons have been forced to enter into the army and my son has not been forced. But only God, the total, knows whether it is a blessing or a misfortune.” “Judge ye not” – otherwise you will not become with the total. With fragments you will be obsessed, with small things you will jump to conclusions. Once you judge, you have stopped growing. Judgment means a stale state of mind, and mind always wants judgment, because to be in a process is always hazardous and uncomfortable. If fact, the journey never ends. One path ends, another begins; one door closes another opens. You reach a peak; a higher peak is always there. God is an endless journey. Only those who are so courageous that they don’t bother about the goal but are content with the journey, content just to live the moment and grow into it, only those are able to walk with the total.

$ Yes. You reminded me of two other habits that I have been carving out: 1. I state the facts. 2. I only talk about myself. Thank you!

$ To sum up: in your work you decide to put more emphasis on being here and now. Anything else?

$ What you said appeals to me: to get rid of desires, detach from the results, distinguish the reality from what I say about it. To see more and to think less about what I look at.

$ Is that all?

$ Rather not. However, all the rest seems to be a derivative of the question of being here and now.

$ Like what?

$ If I am here and now, I am convinced that there is nothing I need to escape from or to chase. That what I want to control or to dominate exists merely in the world of my imaginings. That I’m free from fear, worries, fights, striving, longing for security and avoiding suffering. That I am safe, accomplished, that I do have everything I really need. That everything changes: there’s no coach I was one minute ago; in one minute there won’t be the coach I am now. That there’s no duality: good-bad, healthy-ill, success-failure.

$ How do you know whether you’re here and now or not? I’m not talking about evident analyzing the past and worrying about the future.

$ I am not here and now when I wish some things and don’t wish other things; when I prefer this and not that; when I’m looking forward to something and a perspective of something else makes me sad; when my inner peace is gone.

$ I’m very proud of you.

Chapter VII – Part 12

$ Bill called me to the board today with respect to the habits.

$ That’s why there’s so much sadness on your face.

$ Probably.

$ Is it about the habit of working on yourself?

$ Working on myself is absolutely one of my habits, one of my supporting habits.

$ I have already got used to the fact that sometimes ‘life-supporting’ equals ‘nagging’ for you. What is it about?

$ You know that I have two habits that are two sides of the same coin: either I deeply analyze a part of the past or I fantasize about the future or, what’s worse, I worry about what is going to happen.

$ O, yes, this is your strong suit. And you’re perfectly aware that carving out the habit of being here and now will cut your ordeals.

$ That is why, among other things, I meditate regularly. When Bill left I sat down in order to meditate and there came a thought that my coaching confirmed people’s opinions about superficiality of learning languages.

$ You’re giving yourself hard time. Do you find it superficial to work on habits in the process of learning languages? If yes, so how would you describe traditional method of learning vocabulary or grammar? That would be superficial, wouldn’t it?

$ Even more superficial. If I were to compare it to the body: vocabulary lists would be in the cuticle, habits in the skin and that what I want to tell you about – in the heart.

$ My favorite location. I’m all ears.

$ Frankly, my work makes sense if it carves out in people the habit that I want to carve out in myself: being here and now.

$ You’re still giving yourself hard time. Anyway, you shock people making them realize that their habits, under-confidence or poor time management are obstacles in learning languages. Do you want to shock them more? Bill, erase what I suggested about habits. I understood that the only thing that counts is to be here and now so let’s sit down for 90 minutes, meditate and stop thinking. The same way you could say: there are people who live on Prana. It is enough to realize that and we need neither to eat nor to drink. I’ve been researching this phenomenon for years and believe me: there are so many layers on this ability that getting immersed in the ocean of these possibilities can be even deadly. You tell every client of yours how important in your opinion is to be here and now, don’t you?

$ Yes, I do.

$ So if this idea resonates in people, if they feel ready, they will reach for what they need on their own or they will ask you for a hint. Tell me more about how precisely Bill inspired you make a deep bow in front of here and now.

$ We talked about how things emerge in the creator’s imagination before they show up in reality. I suggested a visualization to Bill and just while doing this exercise I thought to myself: this is against being here and now!

$ Not necessarily.

$ How come?

$ Look at cats. At the end of August the instinct tells them that the winter will be long and cold and that it’s time to start gathering fat. Beautiful summer around and the cat devours with abandon. – My dear cat, what is it about? – The winter is coming, I’m getting ready. – And where’s your being here and now? – I am here and now: I’m getting ready. – You are not here and now: you’re thinking about a cold winter. – I’m not thinking about a cold winter at all. Here and now I’m reacting to an impulse from my body. – And how do you know you’ll live by then? – I don’t know. I don’t think about it. I am here and now.

$ Right. I can visualize the stages of the realization of a project but live here and now instead of living in this unknown that is neither a started nor a finished project.

$ And above all this: not to desire it.

$ That was my objection during the visualization too: if I visualize, I almost automatically start to want a result, I get attached to the outcome, my emotions are given a fantastic baby food.

$ It’s a priceless pretext to practice distinguishing the reality from notions, opinions, suppositions, assumptions, expectations, (dis)likes; perception from visions; observations from thoughts.

$ What actually is the reality?

$ That is what happens before I start to think, to explain, to name.

$ So is it impossible to describe the reality with words?

$ The old man from a Laozi’s story was quite good at it.

Chapter VII – Part 11

$ Wonderful! I’m goose pimply all over when you’re saying that. One more habit and we’ll close this subject for today.

$ Distraction. E.g. I have 30 minutes at my disposal and I decide to learn. I open my Student’s Book and I wonder what to do or I think of what I did last time. 5 minutes later I go to get a drink. I come back another 5 minutes later, a mug in my hand, I sit down and start asking myself: did one of the yesterday’s emails say next week or next month? It tortures me, so I switch the computer on and check it. It’s an opportunity to receive new emails, I delete some of them, I react to some others: I write an answer or call. Maybe I just swing the lead? I remember the first time when I call off our meeting. Our contract reads: ‘the Student can call the class off 24 hours before the class starts.’ We were supposed to meet at noon and in the morning I got a phone call: on one of my building sites there was an accident, I must go there. Paradoxically, in spite of being terrified by the accident, I was also joyful at having a really credible excuse not to see you. I don’t need to add that I hadn’t worked on the language since the previous meeting. I avoided shame, I gained time to catch up on my backlog. And then I had the … what do you call it? … something cognitive.

$ Cognitive dissonance.

$ Right. Cognitive dissonance that like a schoolboy I am ready to “kill” my grandma only to justify why I didn’t do my homework. I felt so bad about it that I completely couldn’t contact myself in this respect and I blamed you for everything. Do you remember?

$ I remember a discussion about one paragraph in our contract. You explained to me that it was out of your control whether you got such phone calls or not and why is the class supposed to get lost because of this.

$ Yes. And you told me that if that time turned out to be a test-case we would have this class at the end of the package I had bought. If it happens again, the class will get lost, according to our contract. Now I admire how experienced you are: of course I could not refuse a great pleasure of repeating the joy of having a really credible excuse. No sooner than at the third time did I confess to myself that it was handy from my point of view.

$ Congratulations on your insight! I feel overwhelmed!

$ What can I do about this habit?

$ Let me start with the other aspect: calling off the classes. Paradoxically, what occurs to me is to suggest not buying packages because they give you an illusion that your coach can perform your tasks in your place. You know how to learn foreign languages. Buy single classes once a month or less frequently and reserve our time no sooner than when you have 20 questions to ask me, you went through 3 Units etc.

$ I am able to do nothing half a year long.

$ If this is your path to understand that the results of your study depend exclusively on you, follow it. If appointments with your coach are your unique impulse to learn, you know better than me how to stifle this impulse. And as for getting distracted while learning, I was very much impressed when you said: Today I will get around to learning in spite of my doubts in success. In my opinion “today” is the key word. Or even: “within the next 30 minutes”. I eat and drink before if I need to, I switch off the radio, the telephones, the computer. If some thoughts start torturing me while I’m learning, I put it down and get back to it 30 minutes later. How is that for you?

$ I don’t know. I’ll have a look at this.

$ Good luck!

Chapter VII – Part 10

$ Ok. Let it be Wednesday 7.30, Saturday 9.00 and Sunday 10.00. How much time am I supposed to reserve?

$ On these days just sit down when you decided to, start learning and stop when you realize that you’re not enjoying it anymore.

$ You mean in less than 5 minutes?

$ Very funny. If you watched “Tudors” in original version only for 5 minutes would you stop enjoying it? No, you could watch it for hours. Do what brings you enjoyment in learning English. Can you take into account some English on Thursday and Friday too?

$ Thursday is my business trip. When I get to the hotel, I’ll get my second wind.

$ 8.00 pm? 9.00 pm?

$ 9.30 pm. Friday 4.00 pm.

$ Fine. Next time, if you feel like it, you’ll tell me how it was and what thoughts came to your mind when you were rubbing. If you rub anything. What other habits can you think of?

$ All or nothing.

$ Sounds supportive.

$ In love maybe.

$ Explain then.

$ I get around to learning: a new notebook, a sharpened pencil, Unit I. Task 1. Reading 1. I’m learning. I have almost learned. Because of the “almost” I decide to revise once again and… I give up.

$ What are your thoughts in that moment?

$ That it’s boring! That I’ll never learn in such a pace. That I’ll revise Unit I till I get retired. That I am helpless since it takes me so much time to get through the easiest stuff. That even if I get to the end of the book I won’t remember what was at the beginning in Unit I.

$ A habit is an action and a way of thinking. Is there a chance of getting around to learning in a decidedly more spontaneous way in your case? Maybe you don’t like notebooks or writing?

$ Well, I don’t love them. At school we always had notebooks and writing tasks so I didn’t even think about an option without it.

$ One quote from “Walden” by Henry David Thoreau: Which would have advanced the most at the end of a month, the boy who had made his own jackknife from the ore which he had dug and smelted, reading as much as would be necessary for this or the boy who had attended the lectures on metallurgy at the Institute in the meanwhile, and had received a Rogers penknife from his father? Which would be most likely to cut his fingers? That was a digression. So the new habit can consist in the following: anytime you have a free moment or when comes the time you decided to devote to English (like in the first habit we were talking about today) you grab what you feel like it: any Unit or a part of it, an article on the Internet, a song. It is all right regardless of how much you do. You’ll learn as much as you can. No more, no less.

$ This is completely new to me. For example in sports trainings are not spontaneous: they’re supposed to serve a specific target.

$ I remember you say: if I can’t make it to join my basket ball class, I go swimming; if the swimming pool is closed I go jogging. I mean something similar. I believe it will prevent you from experiencing boredom. After all, nurturing something in spite of boredom, doubts, discouragement, lack of sense, fear, criticism etc. – that is a real championship. Feelings change.

$ This can be a next habit: today I decide to get around to learning in spite of my doubts in success, in spite of my poor self-confidence, although I don’t know if and how long I’ll remember the things I’m going to devote my time to today.

Chapter VII – Part 9

$ Wherever I go on a business trip I take my English book and my notebook with me.

$ Revelation!

$ I haven’t glanced at them on my business trips more than 6 times, that’s a fact. But it’s a different story.

$ A totally different story.

$ I have a habit of putting back a CD or a DVD in its box after I finish playing it.

$ Thanks to this, CDs and DVDs don’t get destroyed and it is easy to find them. And habits from the other category?

$ I’m thinking what my habits are as far as learning languages is concerned. For sure the habit not to study.

$ It sounds very general to me. It seems to be a result of habits rather than a habit itself.

$ I have a habit to procrastinate. Today I won’t learn because I have 2 hours Language Coaching. Tomorrow I won’t do anything either because it’s only Wednesday, so I’ll catch up on one day off easily. On Thursday I’ll come to the following conclusion: I  won’t do anything on Friday anyway because I’m going to come late from work, so I’ll devote much time for English at weekend. At weekend I’ll be convinced that my family is the most important and I’ll promise to plan more efficiently my workdays from the next week on. Of course, I won’t start on Monday because it doesn’t make sense to prepare anything one day before my Language Coaching. It has been like this for years.

$ If I have a habit of switching off the alarm clock and sleeping afterwards and ascertain that this limits me because I get up too late, I am in a hurry, I am nervous from the very morning, what other habit can I replace it with?

$ Switch on 3 alarm clocks: the first at 6.00, 3 m away from the bed, the second one (integrated with a radio) at 6.02 in a neighboring room, the third one at 6.04 downstairs and leave a glass of water next to one of them so that as soon as I get up I need to walk, I listen to the radio and drink something instead of going back to the bedroom.

$ Excellent hint! What would you advise yourself and your procrastination then?

$ I suppose that the cure is to carry the can in the early morning and that in time if I could see the results of my effort I would feel much more motivated to learn more.

$ Is it realistic to reserve some time in the morning for your English?

$ Hardly ever.

$ Is it realistic to do it at some weekends and in one workday a week?

$ Much more.

$ Let’s have this for a start. Can you put it in your agenda now?

$ It’s not necessary. I’ll remember. And if I put it down and then don’t keep my word I’ll feel ashamed.

$ What about putting it down with a pencil and rubbing it if the situation you have just described occurres?

$ Why do you want me to do this?

$ Because it may turn out that when you observe this putting down and potential rubbing you’ll learn more about your habits or simply about yourself. E.g. I escape from learning English into tidying up. Or I prefer a hangover to keeping a promise made to myself. Or you’ll say: it doesn’t make sense anyway. I have been failing for 38 year, why should I succeed now?

Chapter VII – Part 8

I like those arrows. What do you call this?

$ A jumper. And this?

$ This is a napkin. That is a table cloth.

$ What is their relationship in your opinion?

$ They used to be a couple, they got a divorce and this man is his father. The mother passed away.

$ He’s a widower then. Imagine a short dialogue between them.

$ – You never loved me. – I didn’t?! I didn’t?! And who cheated on me?

No, it’s nonsense. I can’t write dialogues.

$ It’s all right. Next time you can bring more pictures and show me what arrows and/or dialogues you provided. Another thing. Find in our last text 10 words or expressions that you like or that you want to remember and put them down separately on Post-it. When you learn on your own you chose as many words as you feel like it; now we’re going to talk about your 10 examples. Number 1.

$ Share.

$ Where can you stick the Post-it so that you have no doubts what “share” means?

$ On my wife’s night table.

$ Number 2.

$ Cleanliness. In the bathroom. Number 3. A bomb site. On my desk. 4. Payroll. In my agenda, the 20th every month. 5. Craving. On the fridge. 6. Tackle. No idea.

$ What can you tackle?

$ A problem.

$ What’s your problem?

$ English.

$ Why don’t you post it on your English notebook?

$ 7. Premonition. I don’t know.

$ What do you think you’ll be doing at the New Year’s Eve?

$ Going to our friend’s house.

$ So please open your agenda on December 31st, put down: going to our friend’s house and post: “premonition”. We’ll see. Number 8?

$ Refurbishment. In the garage. 9. Actually. 10. Eventually. Nothing comes to my mind actually.

$ Would you like to post the whole context on one of your walls? And “eventually” on the last page of your beloved Student’s Book?

$ I can go for it.

$ Last but not least. Today you mentioned something what you called a terrible habit and what was related to food. You know what they say: habits determine 90% of our actions.

$ 90%?! So where the hell is the free will?

$ I’m wondering. In choosing habits that support your life and getting rid of habits that limit you? Think about some of your habits in both categories, please, supporting and limiting.

$ First supporting. O my gosh! Nothing comes to my mind.

$ Do you have a habit of brushing your teeth in the morning and in the evening?

$ Fortunately I do. Generally, I pay much attention to the hygiene of my body.

$ And other supporting habits, not necessarily body-oriented?

Chapter VII – Part 7

$ All these things are within your reach. That’s what I mean when I say: I do what I would do if the objective were already attained.

Tip number 6: visualize results and steps that have brought you there together with all their consequences and circumstances and make sure that your actions and desires are not contradictory.

$ I don’t get it. I visualize the results – that’s clear and steps that have brought me there – it’s clear too, but what consequences is it about?

$ Imagine a client of the Language Coaching: a beautiful, shy woman, married for 10 years. Her husband speaks Spanish very well so when they are abroad or at international parties, the husband takes care of his wife and becomes her private interpreter. She used to learn Spanish at school, so she can understand a little, nevertheless she feels very uncomfortable when it comes to speaking Spanish. When she is to talk about consequences of her actions she thinks to herself: I’ll learn Spanish and I’ll be able to freely communicate with people abroad and at parties. I’ll be independent from my husband in this respect. Maybe I’ll be flirting, you know what the Latinos are like and my husband will be jealous. Maybe he’ll stop taking me to parties? Maybe we’ll be having arguments about it?

$ I had a thought that in my case a temptation of opening a subsidiary of my company abroad can be such a consequence. I have so many problems less when this temptation is non-existent because I don’t speak English. And another thing: actions and desires in contradiction. What does it mean?

$ One day, a man gave an excellent example in our Language Workshop. Well, he quoted statistics saying that every third couple who declare wanting to have children, have problems getting pregnant. Everybody say they want to become parents, however 33% can’t make it at once. What actions can be in contradiction with their desires? And he recited with one breath: they don’t get enough sleep, they don’t eat properly, spend little time outdoors, work too much, keep mobiles in their pockets.

$ Ok. I don’t do anything like this.

$ I see. Let’s do a purely linguistic exercise for a change. Look at this picture. Describe it as meticulously as you can and draw arrows joining key words with adequate parts of the picture.

$ There are 3 people: 1 woman and 2 men.

$ What else do you call a man?

$ I don’t know.

$ A male.

$ And a woman?

$ A female.

The Student is drawing an arrow and writing: male, female.

$ They’re sitting and chatting, they must have already eaten, they are…

$ … fed up.

$ Fed up.

He is drawing an arrow and writing: fed up.

$ They aren’t wearing business outfits.

$ They’re wearing casual clothes.

$ I find the girl very attractive. She is…

$ … slim.

$ Her hair is …

$ … frizzy. What does the man in the middle look like?

$ He seems anxious to me

Chapter VII – Part 6

$ Is this the end?

$ Or the beginning. It depends on you. How are you feeling? How did you feel?

$ I was flying away. Generally speaking it was a pleasure but I didn’t concentrate on what I was listening to. Maybe that’s just the reason of the pleasure, hahaha!

$ I sense sarcasm. I, Bill, solemnly promise to deride or ignore every method to make my process of learning languages more pleasurable.

$ You mean, if I want to achieve something I need to have a tough time working on it or at least to sweat like a pig? Otherwise, I didn’t do it properly.

$ You tell me about your puritan work ethics. Or tell it yourself. Anyway, I’m leaving this text with you. You can record it and listen to it from time to time, especially before you start learning English or when your ardor fades away. Another option is to read it for yourself and make breaks to imagine things until you realize that you are so familiar with the sequence of pictures that you don’t need this sheet of paper anymore.

Cavallier gives some visualization tips. Firstly, desire to achieve your goals.

$ It’s obvious, isn’t it?

$ Yes and no. Say frankly: has a thought of this kind come through your head: oh, no, it doesn’t make sense; oh, visualization is a waste of time, I won’t be able to master English anyway.

$ Well, something like this occurred to me.

$ Every thought like this is a wasted moment from the point of view of the desire to achieve your goal. Either I desire or I give up.

Secondly, I believe in the result of the learning process.

Thirdly, I regard the goal as achieved and I don’t worry about the means I needed to dispose of in order to achieve it. “How” comes out of the faith in “what”.

Fourthly, I formulate my target in a positive way.

Fifthly, I experience the joy of the result and I do what I would do if the aim were already achieved.

$ This is impossible. That would mean that now if a stranger talks to me in English in the street I am supposed to understand them and answer. And I can’t do that.

$ Are you sure? People who learned a foreign language change many things in their lives, not only the way they talk to foreigners in the street. What else comes to your mind?

$ When I’m able to speak English, I’ll watch the BBC.

$ Can you start doing it now? It’s not about how much you can understand, whether it’s  90% or 25%.

$ Well, I can.

$ What else?

$ I’ll go on holiday only with my family.

$ Probably first you’ll choose a destination or a travel agent. Can you start doing it now?

$ Yes, I can.

$ Do people who learned a foreign language buy newspapers, magazines and books in that language? Maybe they sing together with their favorite rock band?

$ Well…

Chapter VII – Part 5

$ Now you are totally relaxed. Your breath is natural, regular.

Imagine that you’re sleeping.

I’m going to count from 1 to 3, at 3 you’re going to wake up and see yourself in a different life, where you’re a Bill who has mastered English. You’re going to see yourself in a different role, different from the one you usually perform almost every day.

Finally you’re going to be able to make your dreams come true; the dreams you have been dreaming for such a longtime.

The day you have been expecting has come.

You’re going to be able to live it.

And you’re going to be able to act with the whole power of the new you.

Ready: now you have everything you need to do what you want.

1, 2, 3.

The day has begun. Observe what you are doing in the early morning. Has the alarm clock woken you up? What time is it? Are you getting up with pleasure? Are you stretching out in bed? Are you thinking of sleeping a little longer? What are you doing next? Are you getting dressed? What are you putting on? Does your outfit reflect your new role?

Maybe in this new role your breakfast is different? Maybe you wake up in a new place? A place that used to seem exotic and inaccessible to you? What are your sensations at breakfast?

You had learned a lot before you faced your new challenges. Remember how you were getting ready: mentally and technically. Think about all the joy you found in the process of learning and about all the so called failures that were necessary to make you stronger.

Live every gesture with all the details, very precisely. Now you are facing a pile of new sensations. Live them, examine them and discover what is nice and interesting about them.

There comes the time to act. You have already achieved all the necessary skills and you can start acting, using your new potential. Feel you new responsibility you have taken.

You make decisions, choices.

Your new tasks are very precisely determined and you can see them very clearly.

Now you talk to different people than you used to, you call one another, write to one another, they can be your new acquaintances, guests in the hotel where you’re staying, new colleagues, business partners, maybe clients. Everybody is happy with this communication.

Feel the joy of participating in an enterprise where everybody is happy, reinforced and individually acknowledged.

Everybody succeeded.

Now is the moment of harvesting the fruit of your activity in the new role. Live all nice feelings of this moment and don’t think about how you got to it. Regardless of how you picture the result of your work imagine yourself as a farmer collecting the crops. Imagine that you are specialized in growing your beloved tomatoes. You have loved their taste and smell since your childhood. You have never been able to get enough of them. Then you started to grow them, full of passion. You invested much energy and love in your work. With a bliss you watched bushes growing out of the seeds, you observed their flowers and eventually their fruit: first green, then reddish, finally sanguine. And then you plucked one of them, cleaned with your shirt or trousers and bit into it. Its juice ran on your face and you knew: it’s time to harvest. One part to direct sell, second part for tomato sauce, third part to freeze, fourth part to dry.

You collected the crops, think about what part you want to give to other people. Maybe you want to express your gratitude to somebody for having been on your side when you were walking towards your new challenges.

Now you have a vast vision of your new activity.

Feel trust.


Reliance on the targets that you have chosen in your life.

Faith in your own potential to achieve your goals.

Imagine now that you are going home. You are full of enthusiasm and on your way back home you take your time to enjoy the new quality of your life.

Feel all the nice sensations that go with doing what makes much sense to you and what you find extremely meaningful.

Among your housemates, acquaintances, friends share what you experienced today. Observe their faces, listen to their voices.

They congratulate you, encourage you and bolster you up.

Feel all your happiness in this moment.

The night is coming. Time to sleep tight and calm; time to dream serene dreams and visions. Imagine all the sensations that accompany a recapitulation of the day, keep it in your memory till the evening. Step by step you can come back to the state of awareness. When you open your eyes in a moment, your mind will be brisk, relaxed, refreshed, full of enjoyment of living and ready to face all the tasks that are awaiting you today.

Chapter VII – Part 4

$ Assuming that there’s a different architect in the given place: a person who has just graduated, that’s their first job.

$ Nobody will contract them out. They can come on their own, but they won’t represent themselves. They will be apprentice in an office and their work will be supervised by a professional.

$ Is this young person going to be convinced that executing this project doesn’t require a miracle only because there’s his/her master on his/her side?

$ No. They know that hundreds of architects have designed other shops before, that these shops are doing fine, consequently it is not a task far beyond an architect’s reach.

$ That’s right. To sum up: regardless of their professional experience, an architect shows up in a given place and they can already see the hypermarket there, in their mind’s eye. And then the shop is built in real. As well as a young architect who knows that many of his colleagues have already designed similar buildings and comes to the conclusion: I am able to do it, too. You know that millions of people have learned foreign languages and you can draw the conclusion: I am able to do it, too.

$ If it were so easy…

$ Easy – not easy – it’s just a question of judgment. As well as the sportspeople who train in spite of pain and exhaustion and can see their victory only in their mind’s eye, you can learn a foreign language in spite of the frustration and discouragement, seeing yourself abroad, fluently communicating with the natives, although you can see it only in your mind’s eye. Today I’d like to present a visualization that I created for the clients in Language Coaching classes. The text has been inspired by the book by François J. Paul-Cavallier “Visualisation, des images pour agir”. Sit comfortably. Are you warm?

$ Yes, everything is ok.

$ Pay attention to real physical comfort for the next 15 minutes. Maybe you want to lay down? Take off your shoes? Go to the loo first? I suggest closing your eyes so that as little stimula as possible can distract you. Listen to the text, breathe freely and observe the pictures that are created in your head while I’m reading the text. When I make a break, keep on breathing freely and let your imagination guide you. Ready?

$ Yes, I am.