Chapter VI – Part 13

$ There you are! Oh, sorry, I woke you up.

$ Never mind. I’m always happy to see you.

$ Do you remember when learning languages became my lifestyle?

$ Before we met. And I think long before that.

$ Why do you think so?

$ Because it has been one of the most natural things you’ve been doing since I knew you.

 

Chapter VI – Part 12

$ What you have just said refers to cosmetics produced by corporations and I don’t use them.

$ I see. Neither do I. And washing powder, dishwasher liquid, dry food for your dog?

$ All right. You’ve won. When I come home I’ll have a look at the packages. Number three was: talking to my friends. I wonder how you’re going to sell that to me since I have no German-speaking friends (of course, I don’t count colleagues from work) and I even don’t want to have any because the very contact with German at work makes me throw up.

$ So let’s combine it with your hobbies. What’s your hobby?

$ I enjoy viniculture very much.

$ That sounds great because in Germany and in Austria there’s a long tradition of growing grapes and producing wine. Tell me about your hobby.

$ It started longtime ago, as soon as I became financially independent. From every trip I brought a special bottle of wine: an extraordinary taste, shape of the bottle, something typical to the place I was visiting. When I took my car, I filled a whole cardboard box with wine bottles. After we got married we decided to build a house and from the very beginning, at the very stage of the project we took into consideration a wine cellar. Now we have even special wine fridges for wines that require a lower temperature than the cellar temperature.

$ You’re really passionate about it! Would you be interested in exchanging experience with other oenologists, from Germany and Austria?

$ I suppose I know what you’re aiming at. I frequently visit English wine forums. To find something like this in German…

$ Ask your colleagues at work: maybe they have personal contacts of this kind. Anyway, it’s only a suggestion. We’re working on how to transform learning a language into a life style. Next activities were: listening to music and watching films. It is already going on, right?

$. Yes, it is. I love German music, from Bach through “Winterreise” to Marlena Dietrich and Rammstein. I seldom watch films. I watched “Das Leben der anderen” after a very long break in watching something in German.

$ Do you sometimes happen to sit in front of your TV set with no intention of watching anything particular, just like that: sitting, relaxing, zapping.

$ Of course!

$ So in this case transforming the process of learning a foreign language into a life style can consist in getting used to stopping your zapping when you come across a German channel. The best option would be a film that you have already seen or a quiz show or news with headlines displayed at the footnote of the screen.

$ So I would need to think while doing this.

$ You poor, poor Eve. Maybe at the beginning. Then just let them teach you.

$ Listening to the radio would be similar.

$ Yes, that’s right. Program your remote control so that 3 or 5 buttons switch on German radio stations with different accents: Austrian, Swiss, Bavarian, Berliner or others. You press the button and imbibe even if you want to do something else while listening to the radio: tidying up, cooking etc. Next thing: books.

$ You know, I hardly ever read books. Maybe 1 or 2 a year. I feel sad about it, I have bad conscious that I give a bad example to my son but that’s just the way it is. I read newspapers and magazines, that’s all.

$ ‘Just the way it is’ is a lie that people use to cover up the fact that they won’t take time to figure out how things really work. Who said that? anyway, let’s leave it for a while. The last thing was travelling abroad. This can be a huge motivator.

$ Trips stress me so much that I can’t look forward to them.

$ What stresses you the most?

$ Of course the fact that I won’t be able to come to an understanding. That words I need won’t come to my mind when I need them.

$ When is the next trip?

$ In two months’ time.

$ It’s great to have two months ahead to prepare for a trip. The better you prepare before you go the more confident and less stressed you will feel.

$ What do you mean? What am I supposed to do in your opinion?

$ Do what you usually do in your daily routine: get up, take a shower, eat, work etc. From time to time focus on whether you’re going to do it on your trip. At home you do the ironing yourself. Maybe there you’ll have it ironed? How will you order this service? Are you going to buy a local phone there? In your head make up a dialogue with the salesperson. Is the country you’re going to famous for the seafood you love? Make a list of seafood. Are you supposed to have negotiations with a real estate agent? Find the equivalents of words like row house, square meter, lift, countryside. And it’s not about exhausting the subject and downloading all the dictionaries existing in the world on your laptop. It’s about getting started and in a certain moment looking forward to going abroad.

$ How much time do you want me to handle this a day?

$ As much as you want. And if you don’t, only read chapters related to hotel, airport or taxi for a couple of minutes from your old Student’s Book. Maybe you’ll get some appetite to do more. Maybe not. And this is going to be all right, too. To sum up: how can you formulate an alternative opinion to the destructive thought: I have no time to learn languages?

$ Learning languages is my life style.

Chapter VI – Part 11

Instead of reading a newspaper or a magazine in English, read it in German.

$ But then I won’t know what is going on in the world!

$ How come?

$ I won’t understand everything!

$ I love such assumptions, you know me. Let alone the fact that even in our press we can misunderstand some things, too. I mean highly specialized articles or political mumbling before elections. Obviously, at the beginning we need some time to get used to the press in a foreign language. That is why it makes sense to apply this pleasure in small portions. E.g. you set www.spiegel.de as your start page and read only two headlines a day during the first week. Second week – one article a day. And then you increase the portion. Of course, you don’t need to give up the local press in order to – what you called – know what is going on in the world.

$ Do you want me to stick to the screen with a dictionary?

$ By no means! Imagine that an event, for example the Computer Fair CeBIT that you are especially interested in, is described in our press. Then you search and find an article about CeBIT in German and you just read it. I’m sure you’ll find in it many words and expressions that you’ll understand out of the context, which you didn’t know before and that is how you’ll learn them.

$ How am I supposed to be sure that I understood correctly?

$ Let’s make an experiment. Have a look at this article and the underlined words and tell me whether you know them or not: wahllos schlagen, dunkel gebräunte Haut, kahl rasiert, Hakenkreuz.

$ No, I don’t know them.

$ Have a closer look at them and guess the meaning.

$ Wahl means choice and the particle los stands for without, less. So maybe it means choiceless? And I know schlagento hit. So wahllos schlagen is to hit anywhere?

$ Exactly. Are you sure you understood correctly?

$ In fact, yes, I am.

$ And the next? Dunkel gebräunte Haut. I know dunkeldark. Hautskin. And gebräunte must come from braun.

$ And look at the picture.

$ O, yes. Suntanned. Dark suntanned skin.

$ Kahl rasiert?

$ Bald shaved? Which means: bald head?

$ Right.

$ And you know what? I felt that kahl meant bald as soon as I saw kahl rasiert before you drew my attention to the picture.

$ Now you can see how it works. And Hakenkreuz?

$ Kreuz is cross so it must be his tattoo. It’s funny to work like this.

$ If you feel like it, make some short notes out of an article like this: a couple of words, a couple of sentences. While writing, imagine that you’re saying to your boss at dinner: I’ve recently read an article in ‘Der Spiegel’…

$ You’re spoiling the fun.

$ You wish! Let’s get back to the list of activities. The second group is looking for information on the Internet. What did you buy last on the Internet?

$ Cosmetics. Tucuma butter, marigold lotion and wheat germ oil.

$ I suppose that before you chose those products you had read about their properties, ingredients, for what kind of skin they are designed and what other products they go best with.

$ Of course.

$ So after having read such information you can switch to the German version of a given homepage and if there’s not any, google out a given product and for a while bite into texts about Tucuma Butter, Ringelblumelotion und Weizenkeimlingöl. Many cosmetics are sold with leaflets attached to the package with information in several languages. Possibilities to learn German knock to your door all the time.

Chapter VI – Part 10

What is the next thought on your list?

$ That I don’t know, I can’t. Bloody destructive.

$ Would you like to suggest an alternative opinion?

$ If I say: I know, I can, it will be a lie again.

$ Let’s have a look at this. Do you know more now than you used to at the beginning of the language course? Do you know more than people who have never taken up German? Can you speak your mother tongue?

$ Of course!

$ So please be more specific about what you don’t know, what you can’t.

$ My German is so poor that my presentations are hopeless, my small talk is pitiful and my letters and reports are warped.

$ You would win if they organized world championship in being hard on yourself.

$ That’s the way I see it.

$ Transform such a killing opinion into a supportive one, please.

$ I can speak German well enough to make my presentations…

$ … informative and interesting

$ my small talk communicative and letters and reports…

$ … clear. How is that for you?

$ It makes me dream.

$ What’s next on your list?

$ I have no time to learn German and it refers to two aspects: I have no time to learn German as I used to learn at school because I work, I have a house and a family, which means: I have many duties; the other one: there’s no time left, I’m too old now, it’s too late now.

$ I’ll start with the other aspect. It seems to me that Bleckar isn’t feeling at home in your heart so far.

$ The older I am the more effectively I learn? No, not yet. I can hardly swallow when I am supposed to say that. It doesn’t make sense. This method is not for me.

$ Do you remember how your son learned how to walk?

$ Sure thing.

$ Was it so that he needed to make a huge effort to stand up and at the very beginning he constantly fell on the ground?

$ Exactly.

$ And then he started standing up more easily, he did some steps and if he didn’t reach anything stable, a wall, a piece of furniture, he fell on the ground again?

$ Right. Then, gradually, his walks became larger and larger.

$ When he fell down for the thousandth time, was it a reason for him to get discouraged?

$ No way. That was a challenge for the adults to soften all hard furniture on his way with cushions.

$ Just like your son, you have a right to fall thousand times and stand up.

$ One objection: walking is something natural while every time I am supposed to say: the older I am the more effectively I learn I can feel my resistance.

$ Today you need much effort and concentration to be able to think it. Test on yourself how it is going to work for you next week, next month. With patience. Like a child. Every child – a different way. Every child in their own pace.

$ And if it turns out that it’s not about this?

$ I am absolutely sure that if you need something else it will come to you or you’ll be led to this. And as for the first aspect: I have no time to learn German because I have so many duties, let me tell you how to make a lifestyle out of learning foreign languages. I will enumerate a couple of activities and I’m asking you to indicate which ones you perform and how often: 1. reading newspapers and magazines; 2. looking for information on the Internet; 3. talking to friends; 4. listening to music; 5. watching films; 6. listening to the radio and watching TV; 7. reading books; 8. travelling abroad; 9. hobby.

$ From 1 to 7 – actually every day. 8 – a couple of times a year. 9 – it is very different.

$ Step by step.

Chapter VI – Part 9

$ I don’t remember having been researched in the field of foreign languages by anyone. Nevertheless, such research is done on a representative sample that reflects an average person.

$ That’s the point. Has anybody ever seen an average person? Everyone of us is exceptional in their way.

$ If we start talking like this we’ll discredit all the results of all the research.

$ To some extent it is vital. Let me give you an example. The results of some research confirm that eating the main meal in the late evening just before you go to bed favors digestion problems. Some others say that the human body regenerates mainly at night, so it needs to be well fed before getting down to such a hard work.

$ That’s a fact. The best thing is to get to know your body the best you can and decide on your own when you need a fat dinner or when you need to go to bed with an empty stomach.

$ Right. So we have already got some supportive alternative opinions.

$ My hearing is good enough for me to make progress in learning foreign languages. I’ve got everything I need to be able to learn a foreign language. I have always been a good student and I know how to learn. The older I am the more effectively I learn. You know what, I don’t believe the last one.

$ We went through this while working on the emotions. You asked me: am I supposed to lie to myself that I feel good? Far from this. It is about being conscious of what is and choosing something else. You told me about Bleckar. For him this sentence is true. Give me one reason why this sentence can’t be true for you.

$ I have never been as successful as Bleckar.

$ You have never been as old as Bleckar, either.

$ Hahahaha!

$ Let’s have a look at this together: what is first: a conviction that I’ll achieve something or the achievement itself?

$ Generally, if I’m sure there’s something I can’t handle, I don’t even try doing this. E.g. computer programming or production of furniture. I don’t feel attracted to this at all.

$ Right! I don’t feel attracted! What if nothing denotes that I’ve got talent for something and in spite of this I feel attracted to it? Have you ever experienced that?

$ I have never learned how to bake cakes and I felt like doing this. Everybody told me to start with something easy: a sponge cake or a tart. And I have always loved the smell of yeast cake at home so I wanted to do that.

$ And?

$ I took a recipe from my mum, I bought the ingredients, made the leaven. It turned out to be a delicious cake.

$ Although nothing denoted this and people discouraged you from doing it.

$ Exactly.

$ So if we use your yeast example and transfer it to the language area…

$ Are you saying that I’m supposed to believe that the older I am the more effectively I learn?

$ Or just stop leaning over backwards to declare that you don’t believe it at all. Leave a margin and let life surprise you. How many yeast cakes would you need to screw up to start saying: I don’t feel attracted anymore?

$ It’s an abstract question. I never assumed I would be able to fail.

$ That is awesome! Please, apply this way of thinking to German. I.e.: I believe that the older I am the more effectively I learn; although I can’t see any evidence of this belief so far, I don’t assume that it is not true. Can you make it?

$ I’ll see.

$ Very enthusiastic.

$ Very cynical.

$ Fair enough.

Chapter VI – Part 8

$ Let me come back to the question: the same vs not the same. On the wedding day people are generally very happy. O, my husband is so resourceful. A wonderful person. Well, he has got one weakness: he smokes. Some years later “the same” can be possibly described like that: my husband is exactly like his family: stingy. He would save everything. I married a mean man and I have been living a mean life since then. And he stinks of cigarettes.

$ Yes, that’s the way it is! Or even worse: advantages fade away and disadvantages reinforce.

$ This whole sequence of thoughts is to enable you to see that what you feel does not depend on what is outside. First and foremost, you can influence that.

$ So when I get bad news am I supposed to persuade myself that I feel good?

$ I suggest starting with realizing what you feel. Anger. Panic. Nervous. Helpless. And observe how you body reacts: suddenly you feel cold? holding up your breath? tense muscles?

$ That’s probably why I reach for a cigarette every time I get nervous: to take a deeper breath.

$ Maybe. A deeper, calmer breathing is the beginning of a shift in emotions. I take a deep breath, I feel more quiet, my blood vessels broaden, I feel warmer, my muscles relax and that is the moment to choose what I need: peace, self confidence, hope, trust.

$ If I were to apply what you said to how tense I get at the very thought of German… Do you want me to understand what I feel and choose the feelings that can support my learning, my talk, my presentation every time I am in contact with the German language, before I start learning it, before I am going to lunch with German people, before I make a presentation in German?

$. Yes, I do. Feel → do → have. Have you ever heard a story of a very wise man who chose peace once for always? This man woke up in peace and said: o! today I feel trust. Another day he woke up in peace and said: o! today I feel anger.

$ How beautiful!

$ Coming back to the destructive thoughts. I took the example of the impaired hearing and showed you how to deal with it. Let’s handle the next ones.

$ I have always been a good student.

$ Does this thought support you or depress you?

$ On the one hand it supports me because for many years I had been successful at school therefore I know I can; on the other hand it depresses me because I lose control over learning a foreign language, I feel scared that my abilities go away with advancing years.

$ So there we have a supporting thought: I have always been a good student, which you can complete with: and I know how to learn. As for the age. have you ever heard of people who just in venerable age reached the apex of their possibilities?

$ Ancient philosophers, writers. It also stroke me what Bleckar said when he was leaving DC&C to go to Worldwide Cars.

$ What did he say?

$ That business is business. And he doesn’t know anything about cars but he is young enough to learn about it.

$ How old was he?

$ 67.

$ Excellent! In your opinion, what are Bleckar’s thoughts about the relation between the age and ability to learn?

$ The age doesn’t matter while you are learning.

$ Remember the white kangaroo on the green grass.

$ Right. I can learn effectively at every age.

$ Or even: the older I am the more effectively I learn because now I know more, I associate more easily, new information drops into the thick web of my associations that sorts it accordingly. Tell me: who has got an easier task: you or a baby learning their mother tongue?

$ A baby.

$ Think about this: a baby doesn’t know what bean, joy, lizard is. Not only do they learn the language but above all the whole world. You know the world. The only thing you do is to put a layer of a new language on the concepts that you need.

$ Is it scientifically proved?

$ Why does it matter? If such a thought supports your learning process, think like this. Besides, if anything in this matter is scientifically proved, none of the research has describe you, hasn’t it?

Chapter VI – Part 7

$ Now it was simple: we are sitting here in your nice office, I can simulate a little that I feel relieved. It’s different in the real world.

$ Do you mean: you’re not entirely responsible for the way you feel?

$ That’s what I mean.

$ In your opinion, what you feel what does it depend on?

$ On what happens to me. On information I get. E.g. I’m at work, everything is fine, I’m calm and my son is calling from school telling me that he has been vomiting and having a diarrhea. He doesn’t know what to do. And I’m getting nervous. I keep smoking. I’m frantically thinking of a solution: go and fetch him on my own? tell him to get a taxi and go home? send my husband?

$ So if I’m taking this right, when you are calm and get a message about your son’s sickness, your calm disappears on its own and nerves come on their own instead.

$ Yes, the child’s sickness is an objective reason for every mother to get nervous. Are you suggesting being calm when my child is ill?

$ I wouldn’t dare. Two things. Firstly, do you remember such days when the weather was nice, everything was all right at work, all family were fine and in spite of this you felt anxious, not calm.

$ Yes, a strong feeling at the pit of your stomach with a whisper at the back of your head: it’s certainly the silence before a storm. For sure something bad is going to happen soon.

$ Does it mean you didn’t feel adequate to what was happening to you nor to information you were getting?

$ Exactly. Really, there is no consistence between feelings and events.

$ I’m happy you could see it. Secondly, imagine that you’re driving your car. You are focused on the road and one of your ears is listening to the local radio. They are talking of a school that caught fire. The fire alarm installation was faulty, they didn’t organize the evacuation correctly, one child fell down with the staircase into the fire. You’re not listening carefully, so you miss the piece of information what school they’re talking about. However, your imagination is working. Thousands of ideas of what to do about it are coming to your head at once. Call my son at his mobile? And if I get down to the voice mail? It can mean that he switched off the phone in the classroom or… Call the radio station? Check the local news on the Internet? What are you feeling?

$ Fear, panic, I feel like crying.

$ Imagine that half an hour later your son is calling saying that he is vomiting and having diarrhea. What are you feeling?

$ Relief. Joy. I’m crying for happiness.

$ Look: the same diarrhea, the same vomiting and how different your emotions were.

$ I don’t agree with you. That’s not the same diarrhea nor the same vomiting. In the first situation my son drags me away from my work and complicates my day. In the other one, any information from him is evidence that he is alive.

$ From my observation, if I hit the bull’s eye while working with a client either they drive through like a hot knife through butter or they resist with might and main.

$ Why would I resist if something hits the bull’s eye?

$ There can be many reasons. E.g. a regular resistance to change, even to a change for better. Or reluctance to work, to make an effort. It is similar to the way people react when they get a diagnosis and look for a second opinion or when they weigh and it turns out they are over 120 or 140 and they start looking for another scale. They need to deny something because it is not comfortable to be aware of it: it forces you to react.

$ There’s something in it.

Chapter VI – Part 6

Do you remember our little misunderstanding today?

$ The “I’m happy you enjoyed it” thing? Yes, I remember.

$ I have a vision and I wonder what you think about it. Well, it seems to me that when it comes to German you become extremely tense at the very thought of it and you don’t think straight. You become a sixty-kilo-belief: my hearing is impaired, I won’t understand. And instead of simply listening to what people want to say and reacting your way, you assume: it doesn’t matter what I’ll say, so I’ll say anything, if only they don’t realize I didn’t understand.

$ Yes, I’m very tense.

$ You have a right to believe that you know a lot in German. Do you remember Neale Donald Walsch?

$ What are you referring to?

$ He drew my attention to the fact that on average we think according to the following scheme: have → do → feel, e.g. if I win in a lottery, I’ll have millions, I’ll travel the world and fell happy.

$ And?

$ And on average I don’t win in a lottery, consequently, I don’t travel the world and don’t feel happy. Excuse me the stupidity of my illustration.

$ And?

$ And Neale Donald Walsch remembers that the natural order is the other way round: feel → do → have. If I feel happy, I do different things than if I feel unhappy or I do the same things in a different way, consequently, I get what I want.

$ It’s thinly disguised. Out of the mere feeling happy I am supposed to pay for a trip around the world? And besides, if I feel like crying, am I supposed to give myself an order to feel happy?

$ Step by step. A trip around the world is a strategy of fulfilling a need. What need, in your opinion?

$ E.g. a need to rest, to get inspired, to be self-fulfilled.

$ That’s it. For each need give me please three further examples of strategies how to fulfill them.

$ Rest – e.g. sleeping, going jogging in a forest, a spiritual retreat. Getting inspired – e.g. reading… Actually, what is your point? Where is the trip around the world?

$ My point is that if I feel happy I contact my needs more easily and find a strategy to fulfill it instead of fixating on another strategy which is not accessible in this very moment.

$ And the trip? Forget it? Nothing doing?

$ That’s one way to look at it. Notice please that if a given need is fulfilled, you don’t long for other strategies to fulfill it. E.g. if you need order in your garden, you hire a gardener, he comes and does his job. Do you long for self-weeding garden patches then? Moreover, if I fixate on a strategy that is out of my direct reach in this precise moment, I idealize it, which means for example I can’t see any shortcomings of a trip around the world.

$ A trip around the world has no shortcomings.

$ Does it? What about jet lag, vaccinations, foreign languages, lost luggage, sleeping in hotels, not in your beloved bed, separation from your family.

$ I have never looked at this like that before.

$ Let’s get back to the Neal’s order. If I feel happy, I fulfill my need to rest, to get inspired, to be self-fulfilled and the things I need to have show up in my life as a natural consequence.

$ You wish.

$ See it yourself. We started saying that you have a right to believe that you have already learned a lot in German. How does Eve feel who is convinced that she knows a lot in German?

$ Relieved.

$ Show me.

Eve is lounging comfortably, relaxing her legs, putting her arms on the backrest, taking deep breaths and smiling.

You see! My suggestion is: every time you feel tense because you are supposed to make a presentation in German or to have lunch with German-speaking people etc., feel relieved and observe how different the things are you choose to do with the feeling of relief. Observe the results that the different things bring.

Chapter VI – Part 5

$ You’ve got it?

$ Uhm.

$ Your presentation is very professional. And there are hardly any mistakes.

$ Are you saying this merely to console me or to motivate me?

$ How come?! I am really of the opinion that for the last two years you have done a lot. Besides, why would I be interested in praising the progress you have made while learning with another teacher?

$ Hahaha!

$ Show me the thoughts you put down.

$ 1. My hearing is impaired, that is why I don’t distinguish words and I can’t learn them.

$ Eve, did you go to a laryngologist or another specialist to talk about it?

$ No, I didn’t.

$ So how did you learn about your hearing problems?

$ I am a visual learner, I can’t hear very well. The text must be written so that I am able to understand it.

$ Can you hear me talk to you when we chat in our coaching class or over the phone?

$ Yes, I can.

$ Do you understand what I say?

$ Yes, I do.

$ So we can assume that there are no premises to think that your hearing is impaired. If we go to a specialist in phoniatrics and they test your hearing with a sophisticated machine it will maybe turn out that succeeding in a musical carrier requires an enormous load of work. The question is: is it what you want? No! The point is to help Eve to use the German she has already learned so much. And this is accessible for you right now.

Let’s get back to the destructive thoughts. I’ll tell you what you can do about them and you’ll have three options: 1. not to do anything about it; 2. to try it out and state: it’s not for me; 3. to try it out, take to it and apply in your life with joy. Any option is good. It’s important you choose it and you take responsibility for your choice. Ready?

$ Yes.

$ So you came to a conclusion that there was a destructive thought in your head namely: allegedly my hearing is impaired. This thought has repercussions on the way you learn German because according to this thought you don’t distinguish words and you can’t learn them. So, evidently this thought doesn’t conduce to making progress in learning German; quite the opposite: it hinders the process. So if it doesn’t pay off to think this way you need to create an alternative opinion which is going to support you while you learn. I’ll give you some variants of such alternative opinions and you’ll apply one of them or all of them or you’ll create your own versions. Listen to this: my hearing is good enough for me to make progress in learning a foreign language. Or more generally: I have everything I need to be able to learn a foreign language.

$ Or: my hearing is not impaired.

$ It’s good you’re mentioning this. Let’s do a funny experiment. Close your eyes and follow what I’m about to tell you. Do not imagine a white kangaroo, leaping on green grass. Do not think of his white ears clapping when he jumps. Do not think of his teeth protruding from his white muzzle. Do not think of his white pouch nor of his powerful legs that seem to be even whiter on juicy green grass. Are you going out for a pizza tonight?

Eve opens her eyes, surprised.

When did you stop thinking of the white kangaroo?

$ When you asked about the pizza, of course.

$ That’s it. So if I think: my hearing is impaired or: my hearing is not impaired, one picture is consolidated in my imagination: impaired hearing. So if I want to change anything about it, I need to offer to myself a different picture, e.g. good hearing or abundance of everything I need to reach my goals.

Chapter VI – Part 4

$ How are you?

$ I’m fine, thanks. And you?

$ I’m ok, thank you. What did you do yesterday?

$ Yesterday I went to the company E to discuss the details of our contract. In the afternoon I worked from home.

$ How was your German?

$ I watched “Das Leben der Anderen”. It’s a very good film.

$ I’m very happy you enjoyed it.

$ Yes, I’m happy I enjoyed it.

$ Eve, what did I say?

$ You asked me whether I was happy to see the film.

$ Listen to me: I – am – happy – YOU – enjoyed – it.

$ Ah, you are happy I enjoyed it.

$ That’s it.

$ I told you that my hearing was impaired and that is why I have problems learning foreign languages.

$ I beg your pardon: can you hear what I say when I say: I am happy you enjoyed it?

$ Yes, I can.

$ Can you understand every single word in this sentence?

$ Yes, I can.

$ It means the reason is somewhere else. Please, put down right now, on the spot, some opinions that you have about foreign languages, about learning foreign languages, about you yourself as a person who is learning foreign languages etc. In this exercise it is important to find the destructive thoughts that hinder learning languages, discourage you from learning; shortly: do not serve your life, do not enrich it. In the meantime I’ll have a look at your presentation.